5 Pitfalls To Avoid Before Moving In With Your Partner

You are madly in love with your new boyfriend, and you suddenly want to move in with him. And why not? Life will be so much better if you go to bed together and wake up in the morning with each other, right? Well, you may be into each other but you have to take some things into consideration prior to moving in together. There are certain pitfalls that you need to avoid during your decision making process. Read on.

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1. Do not assume that your roommates are okay with it
This is a non-issue if you have your own place, but a big deal if you are rooming with other people. You have to make the decision taking other people into consideration. You may think that your mates are okay with you bringing in a new person, but not everyone is as welcoming as you are. Make sure to consult them first, and get their honest opinion about having your boyfriend live with them. If they disagree with you, you have no choice but to respect their decision. Or to move out.

2. Do not be blinded by the promise of more money
Most people think that moving in together is more economical. After all, you now have somebody to split your bills with. If you have the same body type and shoe size, you also just doubled your wardrobe. You also save a lot on travel expenses and restaurant bills. But if this is your main consideration, you have another thing coming. After all, this "benefit" could blind you from other "deal breakers." Be prudent, and don't let the temptation of a bigger budget faze you. 

 3. Do not take him for granted because you live together
Just because you live with your partner does not mean that you can stop consciously making an effort to make time for him. Stop thinking "I see him everyday, anyway!" because before you know it, you are no longer paying attention to him. Proximity does not mean intimacy, and you still have to  take time for dates. So when you decide to live together, make sure to set regular quality time together.

4. Do not forget to make time for yourself
You may live together and see each other regularly, but that does not mean that you can't set aside personal "me" time. Successful relationships are usually those between partners who respect each other's personal time. They have their own lives and can spend time with their own sets of friends. A partnership, after all, is still made up of two individuals. Do not lose your individuality just because you now have a live-in partner.

5. Do not assume that everything will be easy
After all, love is never enough. This is a major change in both of your lives, and it will take some time before you fully assimilate into each other's lives. There are so many things that could go wrong, and keeping the toilet clean is but one of those things.


So before you jump head first into a decision that could potentially ruin your life, take a big step backwards and think about all the pros and cons. After all, living with the one you love could be the best thing that will ever happen to you. Sadly, it could also spell the beginning of the end.


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8 Difficult People To Have Plans With

by Discreet Serpent

We all have them: friends who can sometimes be too obnoxious to realize that they are very difficult to have plans with. They make party planning a nightmare; they usually object to certain dates and times until they settle on a schedule that's "perfect" for them. Sometimes it's better to just exclude them from plans and just see if they will make it anyway.

At times, we may also find ourselves in these kinds of situations. It could be because of a crazy month at work or a personal project that we are engaged in. We want to fit as many events in our schedules as possible and forget that other people's time is important too. In any case, here is a list of 8 kinds of people who make the lives of organizers hellish.

1. Talk to my secretary

Some people require two to three weeks of advance notice. They have such a busy social (and work) calendar that it is almost impossible to ask them out for a quick meet up. They will "get back to you" after checking with their assistants or their personal organizer. They have a tendency to reschedule, and will get offended if you don't adjust to their time. 

2. What's RSVP? 

There are also those friends who just say yes to anything but don't show up at the event. Something came up. They can also totally ignore your invitation or respond ten days after you send your text message blast. They don't seem to grasp the idea of an RSVP, and have no respect for the careful planning and budgeting that you did just to make sure that you have enough food for everyone. And how you had to bump off your boyfriend's brother just so you can fit one more person on the guest list.

3. You need to come over
You're such a good friend that you will do anything to just see your pal. It doesn't matter that he doesn't seem to want to stray off too far from his house. It's always the coffee shop right across his village, or the mall located a few blocks from his office. And you have to pick him up.

4. I'm free whenever
He says he is free whenever. Just call him and he will meet you at a moment's notice. But guess what? He is never available. He always comes up with an excuse not to see you. There goes your impromptu plan to use him as a winger at this new bar tonight.

5. I'll bring a friend
You're in town for a couple of days and you want to have a serious conversation with your best friend whom you haven't seen in months. You just found the love of your life and you are dying to share the good news. Nothing like a fun conversation with someone who understands how difficult it was for you to even consider commitment. You call your friend and he says he will be happy to meet you. But he's bringing a friend.

6. I'll call you when I'm done
And then there's the guy who has no regard for other people's time whatsoever. It's 7 PM and he's still at work doing overtime. You planned this reunion for quite some time and are very excited. You call him to check on his whereabouts (you are already at the restaurant, of course) and he says he is almost done. He will be there as soon as he finishes. But he has no idea how long it will take.

7. Meet me right now
Some people think that being in their presence is in itself a blessing. They are God's gifts to mankind, so to speak. They will send you a message letting you know that they are doing some errands at the mall and that you should take this opportunity to spend some time with them. Because you have nothing better to do with your life.

8. Always late
And then there's the person who is always late. Even when you lie about the actual time of the event. They don't care that you have to get inside the venue early to get good seats or that your reservations could get cancelled if the party is not complete at the designated time. And usually, this guy lives just a few minutes away.

But then again, they are our friends and we love them nonetheless. All it takes is a sweet apology or a free dinner, and everything is back to normal. And besides, we sometimes find ourselves being that person. Still, these bad habits need to be changed. We should learn to respect each other's time.



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5 Signs That Your Ex Wants You Back

by Discreet Serpent

After several months of dating you and your boyfriend decide to call it quits. Irreconcilable differences, as you put it. You try to move on with your life, consider (casually) dating other people, and try to make sense of new path that's right in front of you. Just as you're starting to get your groove back, you start noticing the presence of your ex. He seems to be everywhere, seemingly forgetting the painful experience that you both went through. Could he be there because he wants you back? Or is it his way of making it clear that he has already moved on?

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Here are 5 signs that your ex wants you back in his life:

1. He talks about you and your relationship
Your friends will tell you that your ex asks about your whereabouts a lot. He is curious about how you are coping after the breakup and what steps you have taken to get over the pain. He will try to find out what activities you have been up to and if you are seeing new guys. He will casually ask common friends questions about you in the hopes of finding out that you still want him back.

He will cling to your old memories and dwell on the happy times. When he's with his friends he will slowly drift away from the conversation and inject topics that are related to you: how you travelled to Europe that one time, how you spend hours on the phone talking about nothing and everything, or how you love to pig out at your favorite restaurant. It will be obvious that he does not want to let go of what you had, and has high hopes to regain what was lost.

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2. He will try to contact you

Every break up should have a "no contact rule," a time frame where both parties are not allowed to communicate with each other. It is during this time that you will discover that you can move on with your lives without the other person. Usually, this would run about 30 days.

If your ex tries to contact you within days or weeks after the big break up, then something is definitely up. This could be a "random" text message saying "good morning," or a simple comment to the photo you posted on Facebook. And be warned about the "drunk dialing" (while it may sound fun, it can only mean that strong feelings are still at play). 

The gesture is simple, but the effects could be epic (or disastrous, depending on how you look at it). People who break up normally don't talk to each other unless they need to work together or meet up for the divorce settlement. If your ex tries to contact you, it means that he wants to keep the communication lines open. It means that he is trying to find the best way to get through your defenses. 

3. He will be a "changed man"
Your relationship ended for a reason, and it is likely for behaviors that can be attributed to the both of you. If you ex is trying to get you back, he will make an effort to fix his mistakes and make it up to you. He will try to talk about the errors of his way and discuss how things would be different moving forwards. If he used to act violently, he will show a tender side that you haven't seen since you were first dating. If you caught him cheating, he will prove to you that he regrets everything by showing you his message inbox and his deleted dating apps. He will try to fix whatever caused your breakup and "forgive" you for your contribution in the matter.

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4. You will "accidentally" run into him all the time
You see him everywhere. You feel his presence all the time. You will think it's serendipity, you will think it's fate that's pulling you back together. I mean, what are the chances that you end up being in the same bus or the same movie theater, right?

Destiny aside, you are probably running into your ex a lot because he is trying his best to find ways to run into you. He probably collaborates with your best friend, finding out everything he can about your daily schedules. He likely stalks you day in and day out, trying to figure out a "subtle" way to cross paths. He obviously knows how your mind works and how you normally spend your day, so getting into your head won't be that difficult. He wants you back bad enough that he is willing to become a creepy stalker just to be on your good side.

5. He is extra sweet and extra caring
He will ask you out on "friendly" dates once in a while, and put his best foot forward in the process. He will show you a "tender" and loving side that you probably haven't seen before. He will be extra romantic, bringing you presents and taking you to your favorite places. And yes, he will ignore the fact that he hates the opera or detests Japanese food. Just so you're happy.

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And if you want him back (you know you do), you will find all of these things sweet and romantic. You will choose to believe that all these signs are pointing towards the direction of reconciliation. You will forget all the hurtful words exchanged, and all the traumatic experiences of the past. You will blindly step forward and believe, once again, that things will work out.


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6 Things That Will Make You Smarter

by Discreet Serpent


No matter how intelligent you think you are, there are new things waiting to be discovered. Intelligence is not a constant state, and there are mental exercises that can keep improve your brain functions significantly. You can read books, go back to school, or watch informative TV shows to increase your knowledge base. There are also options that will not take as much effort or commitment.

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1. Take a break from social media

If you find yourself spending too much time checking your Grindr, Facebook timeline and Twitter feed, you need to take a break and browse through other interesting websites. The internet is full of learning resources that can substantially improve your mental faculties. Look for sites that offer online courses on topics that interest you. Read online reviews of movies, books, and plays so you can have additional conversation pieces reserved. Check out news and public affairs sites to keep yourself updated on current events.You can also learn new skills by reading posts from “do-it-yourself” websites.

2.Take notes and document

Start a private journal or an online blog to document the things that you have learned. Take a few minutes to reflect about your new experience, paying special attention to small details. Write about how you came across the information, what measures you took to learn it, a brief summary of your takeaways, and what you plan to do next. This is a way of re-living your learning experience.

It is also important to keep tabs of the things you have accomplished on a daily basis. While listing down the things that you need to do helps with organization, writing down the things you have achieved will help boost your confidence. The list will give you an idea about your capacity for learning things. It will also serve as an inspiration for you to want to learn even more new things.

3. Explain to other people

Have you ever wondered why teachers seem extremely knowledgeable about the things that they discuss in class? Aside from the fact that it is their job to know their lesson plan, the confidence and knowledge comes from repetition.

The only way to make sure that you fully understand something is if you are able to explain it to other people in your own words. Similar to writing things down, saying things out loud helps in committing things to memory. Learning something is one thing, but the ability to retain information is what really counts.

4. Surround yourself with smart people

One of the best ways to be smarter is to surround yourself with people who are more intelligent than you. Your intelligence level is limited by the kind of people you hang out with. Having conversations with people smarter than you will serve as a challenge for you to improve. You will also learn new things by simply listening to other people talk. This process may take a toll on your self-esteem but you should focus on the long term benefits.

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5. Play a game

A bunch of rowdy adults playing board games may seem juvenile to you but their average IQ will likely be much higher than yours. Games, after all, do not only serve to entertain. Certain games involve a lot of brain function and can boost your memory and intelligence. Word games will not only improve your vocabulary but also make your mind think deeply. Role playing games encourage strategic planning as well as critical thinking. Trivia games test your knowledge base and makes you learn new things while having a few laughs.

6. Take time to let things sink in

Too much information can make your head spin. A tired mind will not do you any good if your goal is to improve your knowledge. It is best to give your brain time to process what it has learned. Take quick breaks in between reading. Even scholars and academics take the time to let new information register in their brains.


Personal improvement is something that you should always strive for. Being smarter, in particular, will help you achieve your goals and gain the respect of others.


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How To Seduce a Straight Guy

by Discreet Serpent
Originally posted on August 3, 2014

I love straight men, or as some people would say, "straight" men. They are adventurous, inquisitive, and surprisingly easy to please. Because they are in unfamiliar territory, they are nervous yet willing to learn. And they smell really, really nice. Yes, I am talking about being in bed with them.

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When we hear about straight guys having sex with gay guys, the initial assumption would be that the guy got paid. Or the guy is using the gay guy for financial gain. While there is a certain truth to that, wouldn't you rather get your guy using more creative means? Wouldn't you rather hunt and enjoy the chase in the process? This, for me, is the best way to satisfy your straight guy cravings. So how do you go about with it?

Good Conversations
Like any normal "courtships," getting your guy comfortable is the key to everything. It is particularly tricky for discreet gay guys because there is a certain amount of deceit going on. Unlike porn movie scenes, you can't just bring a straight guy to a room, grab his crotch, and expect fireworks. You will probably end up with a black eye that way (although it could work for certain people). Get to know him. Gain his trust. Learn his weaknesses. Be his best friend. Listen to him.

Flirting and Joking Around
Once you become buddies, it would be easier to start flirting. With subtlety, of course. You need to test the waters and see how he responds to your advances. Start with the simple "hope you had a great day" message, and inject messages like "I was thinking about you earlier" and "I wish you were here to help me with this project." It would really depend on your personality and on how you think your guy friend would receive your advances. If he responds positively, then you can slowly proceed to "I miss you." For most guys, messages with sexual innuendos work best. It's all done in the spirit of fun, so you are likely to get away with these messages unscathed.

Get Him Drunk
Straight guys think that being drunk is an excuse for doing anything crazy. If they are under the influence of alcohol, everything is excusable. They can do something that they would "never do" and blame it on the alcohol. You, my gay friend, can use this to your advantage. Invite him over to your place, grab a few beers, and drink the night away. This will help set the mood. Just be careful not to make him drink too much, or he will just pass out on your couch.

Set the Mood
One word. Porn. Straight porn, of course.

Ask Him Questions
"What was the best blowjob you ever got?" "When was the last time you had sex?" "What was the most adventurous encounter you ever had?" Share your own experiences, and inject some gay related statements like "I heard guys give the best blowjobs because they have penises and they know what's most pleasurable."

Test The Waters
Put your arm on his shoulders and let it stay there. Or let your hand linger on his thigh longer than it should. Simple gestures that could mean nothing, but could be an indicator of his willingness to go all the way. If he smiles or just let you do what you are doing, then you can proceed with having your head on his lap or his shoulder. He will start to breathe heavy, an indication that he has an idea about what's going to happen. Make sure he relaxes. Offer him more beer. Better yet, offer to give him a massage (this ALWAYS works).

Rebuttal Statements
In some cases, there will be resistance. Your best argument: "We are both guys. We won't lose anything if we fool around." This is actually an asinine argument, but guys really believe that if they lose nothing, then it will be alright. You can't get pregnant. You won't be clingy. And you will be discreet about it. After all, nobody CAN know about your encounter. It will be embarrassing! (wink wink).

Performance Level
Once you're in, you have to give the performance of your life. Make it worth his time. Make him realize that the best experiences can be given by another man. Be adventurous and make sure you exceed his expectations. Learn about his best sexual encounter and make sure to top it! After all, you may want to go for seconds.

The Aftermath
This is probably the most important part of the encounter. You have to make sure that he is okay with the experience. His main concern would probably be his privacy. You need to assure him that nobody will find out about what happened to you. Make the conversation light, and try to act normal. It is a big deal for him, but he would probably want to play it safe and keep things on the down low. Be sensitive.


(One can argue that if a guy has sex with another guy, then he can't be "straight." For the purposes of this blog entry, let's not complicate things and just define "straight" as someone who maybe has a girlfriend or a wife. Or a guy who dates women.)

These instructions are obviously not fool proof. The most critical aspect would be your ability to execute flawlessly. It takes guts, and it takes a certain empathy. Your timing needs to be right, and you need to be at the top of your game. It will also help if you are physically compatible.


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8 Signs That a Guy is Hitting On You

by Discreet Serpent

We are all suckers for love. Even when we don't want it, we have a natural tendency to find it. It could be for companionship, for sex, for good conversation. Whatever it may be, we all consciously (or unconsciously) hope to find our soul mate in a random encounter. But what if we miss out on the signs? What if he's been there all along, right in front of us, and we somehow fail to notice that he's interested?

What are the signs that someone is interested in you?

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1. Social Networking Stalker

If a guy likes you, he will make his presence felt in Facebook or Twitter. He will "like" everything you post, and make cute comments about how awkward you look in a photo or how fun your weekend activity was. He will check all your previous tweets and send you a direct message about how one of your posts affected him directly. He will try to start a conversation with you and chat with you until the wee hours of the morning. He will even talk about common friends that you have, and how it's a small world. He is likely to lure you into asking him to join in on the fun next time.

2. He's on "Protector Mode" all the time

A guy who likes you will have a tendency is to be protective of you even if you don't need protection. It could be a conscious effort to keep you on the "safe side" when you cross the street, or a sudden urge to punch someone who has done you wrong. It could even be a simple request asking people to leave you alone when you become the butt of a joke. If you care about someone, you would want to do anything in your power to keep him from harm. And no, the threat does not have to be real when he goes on "Protector Mode." Chances are, he comes to your defense even when you don't need it at all. And if you like him back, you will find this valiant effort "cute."

3. You are the Target Market
A person who is interested in you will try his best to impress you. He does not care about the people around you; they are all part of the interior decoration for all he cares. One clear cut way of identifying if someone interested in you is to observe how he cracks jokes. A disinterested person would address the crowd like he would in a show. The jokes are likely taken from a page of a funny book. His connection with the crowd is superficial and impersonal. His goal is to make everyone in the group laugh.

Someone interested in you, on the other hand, will focus on you. It's like he's telling you a private joke in your own personal world, without a care for everybody else. The other people in the group might find his jokse corny, but he will try to target YOUR sense of humor and say something that he thinks would make YOU laugh.

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4. He treats you differently 
He could be the biggest jerk when he is with his friends, or a super strict boss to his employees. But when he's with you? He suddenly transforms into the sweetest and most sensitive guy. This boy is trying to get on your good side, and he is putting his best foot forward. He is trying to be someone whom he thinks can win you over. At the same time, you will notice that he is always nervous around you. This is probably because he is afraid to make a blunder that would scare you off. He is trying very hard to impress you, and he ends up a nervous wreck in the process.

5. A series of personal questions
If you are interested in someone, you would want to know everything about him, right? So if this guy likes you, he will start getting personal and ask you detailed questions about your activities. He will ask you about your childhood, your educational background, your work experiences, your favorite hobbies, and even your dog. He will be interested in what you were called as a kid, what you had for breakfast last weekend, and what you wear in your sleep. Some questions may be too personal for you, and this is an indication that you may not have the same interest in him. After all, if you really like him, your life should be an open book.

6. He will ask sex-related questions

If a guy is interested in you, he will definitely want to find out if you are sexually compatible. After all, that's a very important aspect of a relationship. The questions could be awkward, or they can be direct. But essentially, he will want to find out if you're top, bottom, or versatile. He will also be curious about your sexual habits, fetishes, and fantasies. He will want to know where you get your porn, and what kind of positions you have tried in the past. You may think these are conversations brought about by the curiosity of a friend, but think again. There is a big possibility that he is out to find out if you two will click together as a couple (in bed).

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7. You have a lot of things in common

All the questions and conversations would magically lead to one conclusion: the two of you have a lot of things in common! He will agree to almost anything you say. You will hear things like "Oh yeah! I loved that movie! It was the best!" or "I've been to that restaurant but I need to try that dish!" Some of these will be sincere, while the rest will be an act. But this is the most used trick in the book: to capitalize on common interests to bring the relationship to the next level.

8. Invasion of your Personal Space
We learned this in psychology: each person has a "personal space" that he doesn't want to be invaded by anyone. It's different for everyone, but the idea is to stay a safe physical distance from someone to avoid getting into an uncomfortable situation. It could be an arm's length away, or a the length of a hair strand. If your guy doesn't seem to mind your (and his) personal space, then that means that he may be trying to get close to you. He will try to push his boundaries: a touch here and a pat there. These physical moves will escalate into more daring caresses for as long as you allow them.


It is usually flattering if someone shows their interest, and it is your responsibility to either entertain this or to gently turn the person down. Understanding these signs is the first step to building a good relationship with someone. If you are interested, take the leap and don't let the person get away.


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Why Make a Sex Video?

by Discreet Serpent

The second part of the "alleged" Paolo Bediones sex tape has made its rounds online today. Much longer than the first version (over 16 minutes this time), the video has gone viral and has been accessed and downloaded multiple times by netizens. 

We got different reactions from Facebook and Twitter users, who shamelessly posted what they really felt about the video. Some people were aghast that such an act could be done. Others were excited and wanted to check out what the video was all about. Some netizens posted what they "learned" from watching, seemingly implying that they will use the same tactics in the future. Others took the opportunity to get hits or likes by posting links to access the video. Everyone has their own reasons, and I am not here to judge.

Why make a sex tape?

Bediones (as well as other personalities who had similar experiences in the past) is a respectable person in his field. People, therefore, are wondering why he would put his reputation at stake and engage in such a risky act. What was he thinking? What do people get from making sex videos? Here are the most common answers (not necessarily applicable to Bediones):

• Watching yourself on video appeals to your voyeurism and exhibitionism. It is thrilling to watch yourselves have sex. Imagine your enjoyment when you are watching porn. For some people, the excitement is elevated when they see themselves on video as it is more intimate for them.

• Watching your own sex video can bring you and your partner closer together. You can have a "third person point of view" of your performance, and you can objectively think of ways to improve. You can critique yourselves and analyze the things that can be improved on.

• For shy people, a sex tape can help with modesty and guide them with coming out of their shells. They can pretend to be porn stars, gaining self confidence in the process.

• This intimate act can also validate how your partner really feels about you. People are usually insecure about their looks or weight or imperfections, but these become irrelevant once they see how these things do not matter to their partner.

Why is it a bad idea to make sex tapes

Needless to say, making a sex tape is highly risky and exposes you to the possibility of embarrassment and shame. If the tape goes into the hands of the wrong people, then you can say goodbye to your privacy. You will always be paranoid about people talking about you or watching you behind your back. It is a bad situation for celebrities, in particular. If not handled properly, it could spell the end of their careers. It would be a terrible way to live, and could lead to depression or withdrawal from society.

Retrieving deleted files

Deleting your files from your laptop would probably give you a sense of security. If the files are no longer in the trash bin, then they should be gone forever right? 

Apparently, recovering these deleted files is much easier than it sounds. If an untrustworthy person gets access to your laptop (like the repairman or second hand buyer), they could easily run a program to retrieve your deepest and darkest secrets. I'm no techie, but here's a rundown of the process according to WikiHow:

• Immediately stop accessing the drive. Don’t save or delete anything from your computer. Your chances of recovering the file are much higher if you don’t save anything new. 

• Download a data recovery program on another computer, or a different drive. Make sure that you don’t save it to the drive that you need to recover a file from, or you may overwrite the file you need to recover.

• Run the recovery program. While every program is different, they all follow the same basic steps. Make sure that you don’t install the program to the same drive that you are trying to recover from.

• Perform a deep scan. Some programs will give you the option to perform a deep scan while looking for files. This will take significantly longer, but may result in more files found.

• Browse for the file you want. Once the scan has returned results, look through the list to see if your file was recovered.

Sounds simple enough, but again, I'm no expert so I don't know if this actually works. Though in theory, it sounds doable.

Will I consider making one?

I personally have toyed with the idea of making a sex video on several occasions. I am fortunate (or unfortunate?) to have been with partners who are prudent enough NOT to want to film themselves during sex. Hence, I don't think anyone will see me on screen anytime soon. But will I do it if I had the option to? Perhaps. But they will have to be on my terms (I keep the laptop, no other copies). Also, I will have to make sure that the recording device and the laptop remain in my custody and not fall into the hands of other people.



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An App That Solves The "Seenzoned" Problem

So apparently, there's this mom from Houston who developed an app that takes control of her children's phone.

The Problem: Kids who don't reply to calls or text messages. Parents end up worrying (usually over nothing) and kids simply don't care.

The Solution: The "Ignore No More" app, which functionally disables the kid's phone so they are forced to return phone calls. They need to call any of the pre-programmed phone numbers to secure a passcode which will unlock the phone.

The Gay Guy Practical Application: OMG. Can you imagine having this functionality to "force" your boyfriend to call or text back on a timely manner? That would be heavenly for people who dislike being "seenzoned" or ignored. 

The Logical Ramification: OMG. Can you imagine the intensity of your boyfriend's rage when he realizes that you messed with his phone and disabled it? That call back would probably be your last conversation. Ever.

The Limitation: It looks like this app is only available in the US. And no Apple version yet. Also, I wonder if this app is even for real. 

Here's the link. Check out for yourself and let me know if you think it's fake or real.

Send a Sexy Text Message to Get the Mood Going

By Guest Writer: "Year of the Whores"

“Sexting” is a naughty relationship booster that resulted from the introduction of the mobile phone technology. Years ago, men and women had to resort to writing notes or chatting on-line using a desktop computer. While these tactics may have helped a bit, they could not measure up to the accessibility and secrecy of a sexy text message sent in the middle of the day.

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Sexting (the act of sending out sexy text messages) has become a healthy and normal part of the dating process and it has successfully added to the excitement and intensity of modern day relationships.

Studies reveal that approximately twenty percent of smart phone users have engaged in some level of sexting. This indicates that there is a lot of sexy messages being exchanged across the globe. And why not? It is a great way to tease your partner while waiting for him to come home from work, or an excellent means of showing interest to someone you are flirting with. Sexting has almost become an essential part of foreplay and has helped millions get what they want in bed.

Sexting does not have to be vulgar or overly dirty. As a matter of fact, the messages that merely hint on sexual activity lead to the best results. Here are some suggestions on what to text the next time you get the urge to be sexy:

“That’s a nice tie you’re wearing. Let’s use it tonight.”
This approach can be used if you want to seduce someone who is with you in a public place. You could be having dinner with friends and associates, or you could be a few cubicles away from his office desk. Watch him flash a quick smile or turn red in excitement once he reads this message.

“I’m not wearing underwear today.”
This is an all-time favorite that can be used at any occasion. You may be miles away on a business trip, or simply waiting for your lover to go home from work.

“Have fun at the gym. Save a little energy for me.”
Time this message perfectly and send it while your partner is working out at the gym. If he usually takes about two hours to exercise, he may just cut it down to an hour to get home to you.

“I’ll show you mine as long as you show me yours.”
This message can be used effectively in flirting. It could pertain to anything including homework, office reports, things bought from the mall, or a brand new mobile phone. Wouldn’t it be fun to add a little sexual innuendo while talking about innocent things?

“That was a stressful meeting! Wanna help me unwind?”
This is a great message to send out after a long and stressful day at work. Nothing makes the day lighter than the proverbial golden pot at the end of the rainbow.

“You’re on my mind right now. And it’s not innocent.”
This is both sweet and sexy. Your lover will love that you are thinking about him, and will explode in excitement over the fact that you are lusting after him.

“My place, one hour. Clothing optional.”
If you are not the type to play around, then this is as direct as it can get.

What are you waiting for? Send that sexy text message and have a fun time with your partner!


"Year of the Whores" is a budding writer who wanted to try out how it felt like to write for a blog. Discretion was requested regarding his identity.



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For the Girls: How to Spot a Gay Boyfriend

by Discreet Serpent

It's the same sad story. Girl meets boy. Boy courts girl. Girl falls for boy. Boy takes care of girl for a while. Girl thinks marriage. Boy meets boy. Girl remains clueless. Boy falls for boy.

This is probably one of the worst things that could happen to a girl's self confidence. Surely, it would be better if the guy just falls out of love or cheats with another woman, right? Surely, there must be something wrong with her for the guy to suddenly change preference on her, right? It would be super embarrassing to know that she got beat in the love game by someone who shouldn't have been a contender in the first place, right? Oh the shame! I can imagine how the girl ends up not only being the victim, but the one who takes the blame as well. She should have seen it coming, right?

As a gay guy who used to have girlfriends, I can honestly say (I can at least talk about my own experiences) that I had no ill intentions coming into my heterosexual relationships. I did love those girls. I did have plans with them. And I did have intimate relations with them (and enjoyed it). But at the end of the day, true love was somewhere else to be found. And like a normal person who looks for love, I ended things and moved on to what made me truly happy. I am not evil. Breakups happen, and people move on. I just needed to go on my own path.

But how, pray tell, can the ladies prevent such an unfortunate end? Is it even possible to spot a "transitioning gay guy?" Is it possible to stop the heartbreak from happening and avoiding such a situation altogether? I would have to say that there is no definitive answer to this question: anything can happen. I can, however, leave you with some tell-tale signs that your man (bless his heart) MIGHT swing the other way soon.

Birds of the same feather, flock together
It may sound cliche, but there is truth to the saying "show me your friends, and I will know who you are." Gay guys crave for like-minded companionship. The closeted ones, in particular, desire to have a group of friends with whom they can share their innermost secrets and desires. It is hard being a closeted gay guy without at least one person knowing your secret. Sniff around and see if you notice anything different with his friends.

The vanity of the metrosexual
Vanity is common nowadays, but they say that gay guys are a notch more inclined to be vain compared to their heterosexual counterparts. Check his grooming kit and see if he has a lip balm, an armpit whitening cream, a concealer, or nail polish. While these may not necessarily mean he is gay, you can use these as "supporting evidences" when you build your case.

Listen for pronouns
I hate lying to people, so when they ask me about my relationships I generally try to give them an honest answer. "Yes, I'm with someone. Yes, I live with my baby. No, I have not met the parents. No, we are not colleagues. My lover is a good person. The person I am with is the love of my life." As you may have noticed, I didn't use pronouns such as "he" or "his." That way, I get to tell the truth and not expose the fact that I am with someone of the same sex. This may sound weird, but will totally make sense once you catch him doing it.

Check for apps
Discreet gay guys mostly rely on technology to meet other gay guys. Unless of course they are given the opportunity to be in a confined space with just another guy. So the next time he takes a shower, check out his phone and look for dating apps. You can also check his browsing history and see if he has been to any gay porn site or gay forum.

Spending quality time
Lastly, the ultimate gauge will be on how you are feeling when you are with him. There will be obvious changes when a guy is about to bolt, and the changes will be so much more apparent if the guy plans to ditch you for another guy. Pay attention to your instincts. Is he spending less quality time with you? Does he seem distant? Does he touch you less frequently? Are the kisses passionate enough? Does it feel like he has been dying to tell you something important?

Again, these indicators are NOT 100% fool proof. You may need to harness your investigative side further, or you can simply confront your man and get it over and done with. These are tough times, and you need to make sure you are properly equipped with information in order to protect yourself from disappointment.

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