We are all suckers for love. Even when we don't want it, we have a natural tendency to find it. It could be for companionship, for sex, for good conversation. Whatever it may be, we all consciously (or unconsciously) hope to find our soul mate in a random encounter. But what if we miss out on the signs? What if he's been there all along, right in front of us, and we somehow fail to notice that he's interested?
What are the signs that someone is interested in you?
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1. Social Networking Stalker
If a guy likes you, he will make his presence felt in Facebook or Twitter. He will "like" everything you post, and make cute comments about how awkward you look in a photo or how fun your weekend activity was. He will check all your previous tweets and send you a direct message about how one of your posts affected him directly. He will try to start a conversation with you and chat with you until the wee hours of the morning. He will even talk about common friends that you have, and how it's a small world. He is likely to lure you into asking him to join in on the fun next time.
2. He's on "Protector Mode" all the time
A guy who likes you will have a tendency is to be protective of you even if you don't need protection. It could be a conscious effort to keep you on the "safe side" when you cross the street, or a sudden urge to punch someone who has done you wrong. It could even be a simple request asking people to leave you alone when you become the butt of a joke. If you care about someone, you would want to do anything in your power to keep him from harm. And no, the threat does not have to be real when he goes on "Protector Mode." Chances are, he comes to your defense even when you don't need it at all. And if you like him back, you will find this valiant effort "cute."
A person who is interested in you will try his best to impress you. He does not care about the people around you; they are all part of the interior decoration for all he cares. One clear cut way of identifying if someone interested in you is to observe how he cracks jokes. A disinterested person would address the crowd like he would in a show. The jokes are likely taken from a page of a funny book. His connection with the crowd is superficial and impersonal. His goal is to make everyone in the group laugh.
Someone interested in you, on the other hand, will focus on you. It's like he's telling you a private joke in your own personal world, without a care for everybody else. The other people in the group might find his jokse corny, but he will try to target YOUR sense of humor and say something that he thinks would make YOU laugh.
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4. He treats you differently
He could be the biggest jerk when he is with his friends, or a super strict boss to his employees. But when he's with you? He suddenly transforms into the sweetest and most sensitive guy. This boy is trying to get on your good side, and he is putting his best foot forward. He is trying to be someone whom he thinks can win you over. At the same time, you will notice that he is always nervous around you. This is probably because he is afraid to make a blunder that would scare you off. He is trying very hard to impress you, and he ends up a nervous wreck in the process.
5. A series of personal questions
If you are interested in someone, you would want to know everything about him, right? So if this guy likes you, he will start getting personal and ask you detailed questions about your activities. He will ask you about your childhood, your educational background, your work experiences, your favorite hobbies, and even your dog. He will be interested in what you were called as a kid, what you had for breakfast last weekend, and what you wear in your sleep. Some questions may be too personal for you, and this is an indication that you may not have the same interest in him. After all, if you really like him, your life should be an open book.
6. He will ask sex-related questions
If a guy is interested in you, he will definitely want to find out if you are sexually compatible. After all, that's a very important aspect of a relationship. The questions could be awkward, or they can be direct. But essentially, he will want to find out if you're top, bottom, or versatile. He will also be curious about your sexual habits, fetishes, and fantasies. He will want to know where you get your porn, and what kind of positions you have tried in the past. You may think these are conversations brought about by the curiosity of a friend, but think again. There is a big possibility that he is out to find out if you two will click together as a couple (in bed).
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7. You have a lot of things in common
All the questions and conversations would magically lead to one conclusion: the two of you have a lot of things in common! He will agree to almost anything you say. You will hear things like "Oh yeah! I loved that movie! It was the best!" or "I've been to that restaurant but I need to try that dish!" Some of these will be sincere, while the rest will be an act. But this is the most used trick in the book: to capitalize on common interests to bring the relationship to the next level.
We learned this in psychology: each person has a "personal space" that he doesn't want to be invaded by anyone. It's different for everyone, but the idea is to stay a safe physical distance from someone to avoid getting into an uncomfortable situation. It could be an arm's length away, or a the length of a hair strand. If your guy doesn't seem to mind your (and his) personal space, then that means that he may be trying to get close to you. He will try to push his boundaries: a touch here and a pat there. These physical moves will escalate into more daring caresses for as long as you allow them.
It is usually flattering if someone shows their interest, and it is your responsibility to either entertain this or to gently turn the person down. Understanding these signs is the first step to building a good relationship with someone. If you are interested, take the leap and don't let the person get away.
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