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Saturday, August 9, 2014

What Gay Men Think About Gay Marriage

by Discreet Serpent


I really enjoyed getting people’s opinions on that other article that I wrote.  I am the type of person who thinks he is always right (or at least most of the time), but is open to being proven wrong. I have also learned to be tolerant and accepting of differences in opinion. As such, hearing different sides and angles on a debatable issue is something that really excites me. Maybe, just maybe, I’ll make this a regular thing.

My question for the day: Do you think that gay marriage should be legalized in the country? Will gay couples actually want to get married? What’s the impact on the gay (discreet or otherwise) community?

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Legalize Gay Marriage!

“Yes. Legalizing gay marriage will provide gay couples the opportunity for equal rights with hetero couples. It will enable them to legalize their partner as an eligible dependent for government mandated benefits (SSS, Philhealth) as well as company benefits for couples working in private firms.”
***fillMEin***

“I personally think that gay marriage is overdue in this country. We brand ourselves as the San Francisco of Asia when it comes to the gay scene, but we still haven’t offered that. This is, it hasn’t been discussed , but the mix of gay and straight people nationwide has already matured. Which is why I think it’s good to look into gay marriage once again. However, if we can’t even legalize divorce here, legalizing gay marriage might also become a problem.”
***Anonymous***

“I think gay marriage should be legalized in this country. Gay couples need protection too. They have rights to uphold and exercise. It’s not a question of whether they want to get married or not. It should be allowed whenever they want, just like heterosexual couples.”
***G***


Do Gay Couples Want It?

“I know a lot of LGBTs especially here in the Philippines who want to get married but goes abroad where it’s legalized, or to Baguio where there is priest who secretly (and illegally) joins them in matrimony.”
***Si Ako***

“For me, I won’t as of now because I haven’t met the one yet haha.”
***UnCUT***

“I think discreet (gay) people are just not comfortable yet or ready to face the world. I mean, some prefer to be that way and prefer to be with someone similar. For me, the bottomline is that they are still in hiding. And this feeds and empower a judgmental and unequal society.”
***G***

“Do gay couples in the Philippines even want to get married? Are they ready? Hypothetically speaking, if marriage was legal and widely accepted, I don’t think the gay individual himself would be ready for personal reasons.”
***Anonymous***

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Impact to Society

“I’m gay but my own personal view regarding gay marriage is a bit traditional. It’s good that it would be legalized like in other countries, but there will be a huge impact to our (primarily) Catholic nation. Not everybody would attempt to get into marriage because of fear of discrimination and rejection. But on the other hand, this may somehow help society accept gays and lesbians.”
***UnCUT***

It would probably take a miracle for something like this to happen in our current setting, but we can be hopeful. Due to the social influences of the church, I can imagine the chaos that such a change can bring. I'm not sure if our society can stand such a drastic change in the next 10 years or so."
***Anonymous***


No To Gay Marriage!
“No. God created man and woman. Gays and lesbians should not be allowed into marriage.”
***Davy***

“For me, I’m not in favor of legalizing gay marriage in this country. That’s based on the bible.”
***restorante***

“I believe in love, not in marriage. Marriage is an oppressive tool in this highly heterosexual society.”
***Mendacity***


It’s Not a Matter of Preference

“Whether or not gay couples would want to marry, everyone should have the right to marry who they want to.”
***Anonymous***

“Marriage has been a tradition of humanity for thousands of years. So aren’t we part of the human race? This is why many gay people choose to remain in the closet. They hide from their true selves and get into heterosexual relationships. This in turn causes a lot of broken families and scared children.”
***Top Here***  

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My Inputs

I have put some thought on this issue once or twice in the past. As a community, I believe that the LGBT should be entitled to this basic right of marriage. Our options should not be limited because of our difference. We should be able to choose who we want to spend the rest of our lives with, and be allowed the privileges (succession, tax benefits, etc) that come with it. We have every right to having what the “regular” citizens are entitled to should we choose to want them.

Wanting to get married, on the other hand, is a totally different scenario. Just like heterosexuals, we have our reasons to want or refuse marriage. Some of us believe that a binding contract will complete the relationship. Others believe that marriage is just an unnecessary expense that they can live without.  I, for instance, am hesitant to get married (even if I will be legally allowed to) because that is a huge game changer. As a discreet gay guy, it would certainly complicate things and it would mean long and uncomfortable discussions with certain friends and family members. I like things as they are, and it would take a lot for me to consider marriage.

At the end of the day, it all boils down (once again) to personal choices. We all have our preferences on whether we want to enter into the contract of marriage or not. We all have the right to choose how to nurture and develop our personal relationships. What I wish for, however, is for everyone to be given the RIGHT to have this problem in the first place.  



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